Hitting the bullshit nail right on its head.
Feminists don’t hate men, we hate the bullshit power structure that exists that allows men to take advantage of women rather than dealing with their emotions.
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But people want to help. So they try harder to make you feel hopeful and positive about the situation. You explain it again, hoping they’ll try a less hope-centric approach, but re-explaining your total inability to experience joy inevitably sounds kind of negative; like maybe you WANT to be depressed. The positivity starts coming out in a spray — a giant, desperate happiness sprinkler pointed directly at your face. And it keeps going like that until you’re having this weird argument where you’re trying to convince the person that you are far too hopeless for hope just so they’ll give up on their optimism crusade and let you go back to feeling bored and lonely by yourself.
And that’s the most frustrating thing about depression. It isn’t always something you can fight back against with hope. It isn’t even something — it’s nothing. And you can’t combat nothing. You can’t fill it up. You can’t cover it. It’s just there, pulling the meaning out of everything. That being the case, all the hopeful, proactive solutions start to sound completely insane in contrast to the scope of the problem.
It would be like having a bunch of dead fish, but no one around you will acknowledge that the fish are dead. Instead, they offer to help you look for the fish or try to help you figure out why they disappeared.
The problem might not even have a solution. But you aren’t necessarily looking for solutions. You’re maybe just looking for someone to say ‘sorry about how dead your fish are’ or ‘wow, those are super dead. I still like you, though.’
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I believe that there are a small group of women who hate men just for being men. I believe that the textbook definition of the word misandry fits that description. I believe there are bad things that happen to men. I believe those issues should be addressed. I do not believe that a fringe group of women who hate men can be blamed for those issues.
Misandry was a dead word until recently. A group of men who feared the progress of feminism revived the word and used it to undercut the movement. They like having the power being a man provides and they don’t want to lose that. So they created a movement, found a bunch of legitimate issues that affect men, and tried to blame women for those issues. They called this misandry. It’s like conservatives using buzzwords like “death panels” to make people fear health care. They let people assume it meant Obama wanted to kill your grandma. They let their cute little phrase infect the minds of good people and convince them of falsehoods.
People are telling me that men cannot report rape without getting laughed at. They say this is misandry. It is the fault of women who hate men. But that just doesn’t make any sense to me. When I seek a logical explanation, it seems more likely that this is because men are supposed to be strong and women are supposed to be weak. And rape has been viewed as something that happens mostly to women. So if it does happen to a man, they must be weak. How did this idea of men=strong and women=weak start? I’m pretty sure it wasn’t because of misandry. It is an ancient patriarchy collapsing in on itself.
Feminism is about fighting inequality. It’s about erasing the strong/weak perception ingrained into our society. Misandry, as the term is often used today, is about trying to blame women for anything bad that happens to men.
If you want to fight to fix issues that affect men, go for it. But I would really consider distancing yourself from this term. It is used to evangelize folks into a movement that is very problematic. A group that can’t handle scrutiny of their comic books and video games, so they send death and rape threats. A group that calls women sluts and think they ask for rape if they show too much cleavage. Those are the people who coined this term, and you should want nothing to do with them or their language.
I remember that speech very well.
Jason Collins has gotten a ton of press in the last week for being gay, but Brittney Griner has gotten decidedly less. She’s the recently drafted WNBA player who’s openly gay, and she wrote a great piece for the New York Times about what it’s like.
Brittney’s “coming out,” if you could call it that, seems to have been very different from Jason’s, and she explains at length how that has made her career and general life trajectory different from his. Forgive the huge chunk of copied text here, but it’s too good not to include:
I first came out to my mom in the ninth grade. Even though the story is kind of boring (comparatively), I remember it as if it were yesterday. I was leaning against a wall in our house at the time, not doing anything in particular. For whatever reason, at that moment I let my mom know I was gay. It wasn’t planned. It just popped out. She gave me a hug, smiled and told me she loved me, and I went back upstairs to my room. Simple as that.
I knew then that it didn’t matter what my sexuality was; my mom and family would always love me for who I am. For me, the simplicity behind coming out was both powerful and beautiful. No drama, just acceptance and love.
That’s why I never felt the need to publicly announce I was “out.” People have asked me if I’m at all bothered that my “announcement” after the W.N.B.A. draft last month didn’t receive as much attention as Jason’s. Frankly, it didn’t matter at all to me. I simply answered a question honestly and am just happy to tell my truth and to be in a position to encourage others to do the same. It’s all about living an honest life and being comfortable in your own skin. It strengthens me to know that Jason and I (along with so many other out pioneers and allies) are united in a mission to inspire others who may be struggling. I want everyone to feel at peace and O.K. with being who he or she is.
Just as basketball doesn’t define who I am, neither does being gay.
This woman is absolutely inspiring. I can’t wait to see what she does next.
Just as basketball doesn’t define who I am, neither does being gay.
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Time to remind people…
(Need to remind people from http://scidoll.com/an-open-letter-to-tesco/)
You know what?
I don’t care if being a lesbian isn’t natural.
Its 2013. Oreos don’t have a single natural ingredient in them that isn’t distilled out of recognition. People get their vegetables from cans. They have made cruelty-free, lab-grown BACON. People fly around in big, metal machines.
I. AM. TALKING. TO SOMEONE. ACROSS THE WORLD. IN A MATTER OF SECONDS.
Not natural. Is not bad.
Your rhetoric is no longer a valid excuse for hate.
or, why the MCU didn’t ruin your favorite supervillain.
below the cut: Iron Man 3 spoilers, discussion of cultural appropriation, narrative arc, and analysis of how ridiculously, wonderfully meta the advertising scheme of IM3 was.
Natalie Dormer pointed out to me last week that Margaery has a freedom many women lack because her family is run by a woman. Now Sansa’s been sucked into that dynamic.
Sophie Turner: Yeah, and it’s very refreshing to see Sansa kind of sucked into that as well, because all her life, really, she’s been surrounded by men. I mean, apart from her mother. Even Arya has this very boyish, tomboyish way about her. I think that’s partly the appeal of Olenna and Margaery – they’re so alike to Sansa in that way that she feels this connection with them, this bond with them. Because she’s such a strong individual female joining the ranks of Olenna and Margaery, both incredibly strong, it works. It’s a very powerful threesome, I feel.
I’m glad to hear you use the word “strong.” It’s probably kind of important to reclaim the concept of “strong female characters” from characters who can physically kick your ass to simply mean female characters who are strongly written.
Sophie Turner: I think the strong thing about Sansa is the fact that she doesn’t fight. Fighting alone can be seen as a very strong thing to do, but the fact that she doesn’t fight and she doesn’t strike back is probably her best trait. Having to resist the urge to fight back – which, you know, I’m sure she has – is in itself one of the best things about her. In that sense, she’s very strong, and she’s very strong-willed, and she has willpower. That’s very important in this world, because if someone had fought back they’d be dead. Because … Joffrey. [Laughs]
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books that make more sense:
- A Guide to Speaking English, by Sofia Vergara
- A Guide to Not Dying, by Dean Winchester
- A Guide to Making Friends, by Sherlock Holmes
- A Guide to Pop Culture Movie References, by Castiel
- A Guide to Dancing, by Stephen Hawking
- A Guide to Singing, by Helen Keller
- A Guide to Driving, by London Tipton
- A Guide to Being Stupid, by Bill Nye
- A Guide to Abstinence, by Tiger Woods
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- A Guide to Healthy Relationships, by Taylor Swift
- A Guide to News Reporting by Fox
- A Guide to Being Gay, by Straight People
- A Guide to Being Poor, by Bill Gates
- A Guide to Presidency, by Mitt Romney
- A Guide to Being Funny by Seth MacFarlane
A Guide to Being the Best Blog on Tumblr, by TheAbsoluteMostFunniestPosts
Good God.
